We have seen how students in Kenyatta University passed away this passed weekend from a road accident. Leading us to conclude; change is inevitable. Accidents may just happen from nowhere, you could be walking then you trip and fall hard, crossing a road only to be hit by a car or you could be involved in a car accident.
You then end up physically, emotionally and psychology damaged. Sometimes temporarily or permanently, leaving you emotionally scarred.
Bryan a UoN student, worked as a Safaricom personnel who traveled a lot. Late last year, the team was driving back to Nairobi from Mai Mahiu when they were involved in an accident.
According to Bryan after undergoing corrective surgery and nursing his physical injury for months now, says he has grown stronger from the experience and that the last thing anyone wants is to be treated with sympathy.
He walks us through how he is handling the post-accident.
- Mixed emotions creep in. You get shocked, angry, stressed and confused. Your whole life just flashed before you. You start thinking deep, about God’s existence. Your motivation for life gets improved at the same time angry that you won’t be able to do what you used to do before. Bryan loved playing football and travelling a lot, he had to adjust to it all. He says it is a challenging journey that not involves healing of bones, but one that opens your mind and makes you a different but better person.
- Who is real? Support from friends and family becomes a norm. You get to know who cares enough, who is that die or ride who you always had a good time. Fortunately, Bryan has his day one people helping him out where necessary.
- Positive outlook through counselling. The anger that was bottled in definitely needs an outlet. He used positive self-talk by setting goals like he promised himself in a few months he would ditch the crutches and walk without them. Professional help also came through for him.
- Acceptance. He accepted his state, this helped him have a speedy recovery, unlike any other injured person, and he didn’t spend so much time confined into a hospital bed. He embraced physiotherapy that helped him improve his walking.
“I didn’t want to feel sorry for myself, I am disciplined with the exercises. I could be found walking from an Ummoiner stage in the CBD all the way to Main campus back and forth on a daily”
5. Dos and Don’ts for the injured person. Do provide any source of support or help he/she may need. Even the slightest form of help is invited. Help one cross a road maybe? Don’t make jokes, at least not so soon.