Controversial issues have a tendency to trend in our generation. A word could have a very innocent meaning in layman’s perception, but not before the youth. Some of these trending controversial issues and topics have raised a lot of concern among the older generation questioning our way of growth. Often we find older generations being at logger heads with the younger generation on some of these topics. But that is not the focus of this piece today.
Recently words like sponsor and fisi became some of the most talked about topics in the country. Sponsor losing its meaning completely. Right now if anyone says, ‘I am looking for a sponsor.’ They will be given ‘the eye’. Its a judgement-filled expression that speaks volumes. People would think of a fat-bellied older man with a lot of money, for the ladies. For the men, it would be an older woman, old enough to be their mother, again with a lot of money. In each case, the older people would have families and only need the younger people for sex. In exchange they get money. Funny how that had a different term for it in the olden days.
Who is a fisi? A Swahili would tell you that’s a hyena. Which is true. But who is a fisi according to the youths? A man who doesn’t let a skirt pass him. Haha… A man who cannot have his pick among the ladies and would therefore prefer all types, at the same time. And never once settling down with one. There could be other definitions to the word, but fact remains, they are men with the hyena attribute attached to them.
I recently did a research on this fisi issue. I interviewed few students from different universities who are self proclaimed fisis. Everyone had their own way of handling being a fisi, and how to be a successful one at that. To be clear, I am not advocating for the team-mafisi, my rib may be among the collateral damage.
These are some of the ways of being a successful fisi in campus according to my research:
According to a friend in Kenyatta University, holding on to one relationship would be your doom. To be a successful fisi, do not be exclusive with anyone. Being single is the key. If one of those divas you see around campus updates on their social media pages that they are single, you are tempted to inbox her and surely you will do. But not for a relationship, just to add to your trophy list. Talk to every lady like they are stars and you have known them all your life.